The other day, I had a deep profound moment with an ex-soulmate of mine. Yes, soulmate. We are not together. We had been in a relationship in the past, but we could never make it work. Just didn't get along. I hated him and loved him. He hated me and loved me. All in the same breath. Yada, yada, yada. It's possible to have love for someone and not be with them. Not even have the desire to be with them. Maybe the desire is there, but it's not strong enough. So, he was and is my soulmate. He's a part of me. I met another soul mate and well, it was only for a specified time. I don't believe that in this great, big world there is one person for us, there could be 3-4. We just have to know how far along we are in that number. Are on on that #2, #1 or ready for the last? I believe that in certain times in our lives that person is the right person, our soulmate. But as we evolve, so do our needs and perspective, and that person may not be right for us anymore. Sure, a soulmate should be able to evolve with you, but hey, sometimes it doesn't happen. We have to let people go to complete their own separate journey, but it doesn't mean that person wasn't your soulmate. Sometimes, they are in our lives to teach us something, and may never leave until we "get it".
In other words, I plan for an eternity whether now or in the next life with my "last" soulmate. Just because someone is not a part of our lives, does not mean they are not a part of us. Each soulmate carries you on to the next one. Until it becomes your last one.
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whitney and bobby are soulmates they let the media get in their heads but i see those two creeping back together, if not, then maybe blog is right that it was just time to go to that next place in life...
To me if you dont work out with your soulmate that person wasnt your soul mate to begin with.
I like this way of looking at soulmates because too many of us put 2 MUCH pressure on another person to be right for us. Are we right for them? So, if something doesn't WORK does that mean they were not our soulmate? Crazy. Everyone is here to teach one, two or three or four. To say someone aint your soulmate because you are not together is a disservice to your heart and intellect.
Love the Whitney And Bobby photo...but what about Wil and Jada? Wait, i understand they are still together...okay!
okay, maryann, darling who is this ex and what was this profound moment? for you to write about it, i know it left something with you, girrrrrl, but wait a minute, oh, hell (calling you now)
DO NOT CALL ME...LOL
I get it. I agree that there is more than one "one". That one could change and the one you make up your mind to stay with and make it work, well, he's it.
So what do you do if you're with your "soulmate" and a better, more compatible (and attractive) soulmate crosses your path? Do you keep the one you're married to? Ignore the other? Balance them both?
It seems to me that if you believe that there world has 3, 4, or even more "soulmates" for you that the concept of monogamy and being with one person forever is a man made concept and not a concept derived from nature or a higher power.
I have to agree with this post 110%. I think of relationships of my past and for a while I felt that I had lost out on women I loved/soulmates. However, I realized those women would not have been able to grow with me as I have grown and advanced over the years. Furthermore, they may have been more of hindrance because they would not have fit or believe in the career I am pursuing. Great post and real talk.
I think people need to look for their match. This is a person who is weak where they are strong and vice versa.
Loving a bottom B
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