I’m what many of you women call a “dog”. I just got it like that. I’m tall, handsome, gainfully employed, in good shape, got my own car, home, and even a second home. I know I can be a good provider. I haven’t had a real girlfriend in like 5 years. I’m 38. I have no kids, and I’m starting to catch hell from family and the baby daddies around me. The thing is I want kids, but I don’t want to get married. At least, not marry the wrong person. That scares the hell outta me. I’ve worked too hard. I just feel time is slipping by. The afterwork parties and all that is getting wack. I want a soft ass in my bed that’s mine. Where do I start?Single,
*Shane
Dear *Shane,
Damn. Well, let me just say I wanna stay as far away from you as possible, hon. You sound really confused. But you’ve come for advice, so here’s some. Make a decision. I mean, you are 38. That good ole sperm is gonna be kicking around until you die, but the quality starts depleting at 30 when testosterone drops. Use it now. By the time the kid is 10, you’re gonna be almost 50. Dads at 50 can't quite play football with their sons like they do at 30. I don’t mean to sound bleak, but the facts are the facts. It doesn’t sound like you wanna be running around forever. Hell, when you marry you’ll have more women who want you. Think it’s a lot now? I’ll tell you why on a later post.
Find a girl, get to know her, and marry her. Date her, date a few with an objective in mind that you want to settle down by (fill in date here). Don’t tell her because she may get you to knock her up a lot sooner. Think about it. When you marry, your domestic situation ain't gonna change much. You'll pretty much do the same thing and come home at the same time. But for your wife, her domestic life changes instantly because more than likely she'll be working, cooking, running errands, and getting both of your lives together. You'll have help and a warm body next to you at night. If that's what you want, please don't choose anyone whose career is more important than her marriage. Figure out what you want at home. It'll save you lots of stress later on.
Again, date with a purpose, most good businesmen do. You’ve had the sex, the parties, and the money. It’s time for you to stop letting fear run your life. Yes, you are afraid that is why you want to maintain so much control by not allowing someone else in your life on a consistent basis. I can tell you want to be married. That’s your normal male tendency that you can’t ignore. It’s in your gene. Will you be faithful? That’s not the point. But the point is that you want to bond with another woman in a meaningful way to propagate the species.
You need a legacy. Find a gal, date gal for a few months, engage, marry and get gal pregnant. Make her sign a prenup, too. Read MRS. BIG and find out what happens when you don't. Sounds like you could be working with a lil somethin.
An AF With Love,
MR
7 comments:
This is what is so damn annoying about men. They say they want something then when they get it they change their mind. I think for the sake of ALL WOMEN OUT THERE this man needs some therapy and some....church!
FINALLY, a question from a MAN. I would date him, whatz his #? email? LMAO.
another confused man well the first step in getting married is learning how to make a damn decision he cant even do that
Maryann if you're gonna be posting up these kinds of message from single, available men, you need to give up their info. Ain't you supposed to be love and everything? :)
Dude definitely need a woman in his life. That's the best thing I ever did. Got a maid, an accountant, a dishwasher, a sex bunny, a therapist, and a nurse all in one.
This man is doing the right thing. He just wants to make sure he is NOT going to break hearts and needs to be clear on his motives. Yeah, he's undecided, but that's all of us. It only takes one woman. But I think he needs to make a decision before the woman comes along because women hate being therapists (to poster above ;)
Sounds like this young man needs lots of practice--first being alone and then being with one woman BEFORE he even thinks about marrying someone. Also he needs to check his own behavior, character and fears or he will MOST definitely attract the wrong woman--look at the vibes being sent out into the universe!
Also I personally find this "god's gift" attitude a little disturbing. While this young man is worried about not marrying the right woman, I think he should do some internal work to make sure he has something to offer a good woman aside from material things.
Afteral the woman is the prize. The woman is the prize. The woman is the prize. Not the other way around!
Also while I'm married and marrried VERY young, I don't think people should let time be a factor when selecting a mate. It's something you just can't do within the parameters of a set deadline.
Post a Comment