Letter to LisaRaye (a request from one of my readers!)

Dear Lisa:

You got a problem. A problem many women have, especially Black women, and that is not knowing when to let go. We understand that you are over 40, a single mother, an actress that had to hustle from one role to the other, only to find that one of her most consistent TV roles was cut off. Back to the drawing board. Then comes Mr. Prime Minister, handsome, rich, seduces you, you seduce him. You marry. You smile. Then all hell breaks loose. It happens.

In the best of situations, your husband is like you, lost, broken, where the two of you can see each other faults and apply healing balm to each other wounds (literally, with your bite marks). In your case, it's not that way. You both are from different planets. You and him were never meant to be. It is possible that you, or he, had forced this marriage to make it look "right" or look "good". He had something you needed, and you had something he needed. Was there love? Maybe. What do you think?

As I conclude, remember that what you fight to get in life you fight to keep. Aren't you tired of fighting? Not him, but your fear to be alone, another single black woman with kids. But get this. You fought him physically, but you are also beating yourself up for making a wrong move. Now, if you two work this out, since you are married and have made a promise, please do not go to the press anymore. Suck it up. Get your marriage right in privacy. Stay on T&K. Build an orphanage, make those T&K women like you. Yes. Set up a school. Take your PM wife role and wear it and stay out of Lil Kim's parties.

With love,
Maryann